Alan Gaynor - Counsellor, Blackpool, UK 

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I’ll be straight with you—this isn’t for everyone.If you’re happy carrying on as you are, that’s fine. But if you’ve been feeling stuck, low in yourself, or like you’ve lost a bit of direction, then it might be time to do something about it.I’m offering a small number of 1-2-1 walk and talk and traditional counselling sessions in Blackpool.This is not a group. It is not a class. It’s a private, straightforward space to:<ul><li>Clear your head</li><li>Talk things through honestly</li><li>Start getting moving again—mentally and physically</li></ul>My approach is simple: No fluff. No jargon. No pretending.Just honest conversation, practical thinking and forward movement.I’m a BACP registered counsellor with a Master’s degree in Positive Psychology &amp; Counselling, and I’ve spent over 40 years working in coaching, teaching and supporting people. I won’t dress things up—but I will listen, and I will help you face things properly.If you think this might help, email me by clicking the button below and we’ll take it from there.Alan

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Hi my name is Alan Gaynor, I am a educator experienced in higher and secondary education, a resilience practitioner, behavioural development specialist and founder/CEO of Mind in Motion C.I.C. based in Blackpool, Lancashire, UK.My work focuses on working with individuals or organisations, and is grounded in building mental strength, emotional regulation and sustainable consistency through structured, evidence-informed approaches, including positive psychology.I have over a decade of experience working within SEMH and SEN environments. I coach and support individuals to build resilience, improve mental wellbeing and to make positive life choices, grounded in positive psychology interventions.I am a BACP member trained in person-centred counselling, my work is based on humanistic theory and principles, providing individuals with empathy, authenticity and unconditional positive regard.My life journey has been unconventional, but it is precisely that journey that provides me with the empathy, understanding and strength to support people in making positive life choices, to improve and maintain their mental wellbeing.

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Alan Gaynor

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<ul><li>BACP Member ABC Level 4 PCT Counsellor</li><li>Master's Degree in Positive Psychology &amp; Counselling</li><li>PCGE Teaching Qualification</li><li>BA (Hons) in Sports Coaching &amp; Exercise Science</li><li>3rd Dan USKASKO / 2nd Dan CEKA /1st Dan KUGB Black Belt</li><li>EKGB Qualified Coach</li><li>England Boxing Coach</li><li>BBBoC Trainer, Second and First Aider</li></ul>

This phrase, originally from Proverbs, was used by Martin Luther King and others to promote resilience in the face of prejudice and inequity.

Over the past few years, my journey into Positive Psychology has become far more than academic study. It has become a way of seeing. A way of understanding. A way of making meaning from moments I once carried but never fully interpreted.As part of my Master’s dissertation, I undertook an autoethnographic exploration of my earliest memory — not simply to analyse it, but to understand how it shaped the architecture of my emotional world. What I discovered surprised me. Beneath what I had always remembered as childhood terror, I found something far more powerful: the foundation of my resilience, my attachment patterns, and my enduring belief in the power of love.And at the centre of that memory stands my mother.“The purest love on earth can be found in a mother’s eyes.” — Albom (2006)My earliest memory is of my first day at primary school — Ss Peter and Paul’s in Walsgrave, Coventry. I must have been four, perhaps five. What fascinates me now is not just that I remember it, but how vividly I remember the feelings.The morning began unusually early. My mum, who would normally have left for work before dawn, was still home. I remember her hands dressing me — gentle, careful, slightly trembling. Even half asleep, I sensed something was different. There was a quiet nervous energy in the air.At the time, I could not have named it. Now, through the lens of Positive Psychology and emotional awareness, I recognise it as anticipatory anxiety (Barlow et al., 2016). It was my first conscious encounter with the discomfort of transition. But alongside that anxiety was something else: the unmistakable comfort of her presence.Even when I did not understand what was happening, I understood this — if Mum was there, I was safe.When we arrived at school, everything felt overwhelming. The building looked enormous. The stairs to the infant classroom seemed impossibly high. There were unfamiliar children everywhere. I remember clutching onto her, sensing my world widening faster than I could manage.We were greeted by the headmaster, Mr Fletcher — warm, welcoming, softly spoken. In hindsight, I can interpret his demeanour as early social support, a protective factor known to buffer stress and support well-being (Seligman, 2011; Vaillant, 2000). But to my younger self, he was simply another stranger in an unfamiliar world.And then came the moment that has never left me.I turned, and she was gone.I caught sight of her running down the school driveway, her figure getting smaller with every step. The panic that rose inside me was immediate and consuming. My body reacted before my mind could make sense of it. Tears streamed down my face. My chest tightened. My breathing became shallow. I ran — instinctively — because every part of me was wired to restore proximity to the person who represented safety.John Bowlby (1988) described secure attachment as foundational to emotional regulation. What I experienced that day was my first perceived rupture of that attachment bond. It felt catastrophic.I remember being intercepted before I reached the gate. I remember feeling exposed, humiliated, overwhelmed. I remember thinking — in the simple cognition of a child — that I had been left behind.But here is what transforms this memory from trauma into tribute.The school door opened.She came back.Even now, writing this as an adult, I feel the emotion rising in my chest. She was crying too. Her mascara slightly smudged. Her arms wide open. She did not appear irritated or embarrassed. She appeared heartbroken that I was heartbroken.She knelt down, gathered me into her arms, and spoke in the warm, melodic voice that has soothed me my entire life. She explained that I had to stay at school, just like the other children. She promised she would return later. And then she said the words that became a psychological anchor in my life:“I will never leave you alone.”In that moment, my breathing slowed. My muscles softened. My nervous system recalibrated.Barbara Fredrickson’s broaden-and-build theory (2003) explains how positive emotions — especially love — undo the lingering physiological effects of negative states and build enduring psychological resources. That is exactly what happened. The stressor remained. I still had to stay at school. But the emotional experience transformed from abandonment to trust.She did not remove the challenge. She restored my capacity to face it.That distinction has shaped the way I view resilience ever since.When I returned to the classroom, some children laughed at my tears. Others quietly showed kindness. Looking back through my autoethnographic lens, I can now see the beginnings of peer connectedness forming — a fundamental human need described by Baumeister and Leary (1995). Because my attachment bond had been repaired, I was able — tentatively — to begin widening my circle of belonging.But resilience did not look like bravery that day. It looked like staying.It looked like trusting her promise.At the end of the school day — which felt like a lifetime — she returned exactly when she said she would. She greeted me with a Cadbury’s “finger of fudge.” To an outside observer, it was a small chocolate bar. To me, it was proof. Proof that she kept her word. Proof that the world could feel safe again.Through a Positive Psychology lens, I now recognise this as a savouring intervention (Bryant &amp; Veroff, 2007). A small, intentional positive experience that anchors recovery and reinforces emotional safety. But beyond the theory, it was love made tangible.Walking home beside her, chocolate in hand, I had survived my first major separation. What once felt like terror now reveals itself as the birthplace of resilience (Peterson &amp; Seligman, 2004).This memory, once defined by fear, has become something entirely different in my adult narrative.Through autoethnography, I was able to revisit it not just evocatively, but interpretively. I began to see how this moment shaped my core values. Relationship sits at the centre of my character strengths. Loyalty. Compassion. Emotional depth. A profound sensitivity to belonging and abandonment. All traceable to that school driveway.My mother did not speak in psychological frameworks. She did not quote research or theories. She worked hard. She sacrificed quietly. She carried responsibilities I was too young to see. But what she modelled — consistently — was emotional availability. She returned when I needed her. She kept her promises. She demonstrated that love is not the absence of hardship, but the presence of commitment within it.Positive Psychology speaks often of meaning-making — the ability to construct coherence and growth from life experiences. Studying this field has allowed me to reinterpret my earliest memory not as a story of childhood distress, but as the origin story of my emotional strength.Sometimes resilience is not forged in grand adversity. Sometimes it is forged in a mother’s decision to turn around.In her returning, she built my belief that connection endures. In her reassurance, she built my capacity to regulate fear. In her love, she built my life’s work.If I now dedicate myself to understanding well-being, attachment, and flourishing, it is because I experienced their foundations long before I could articulate them.My earliest memory is not simply of starting school. It is of love that refused to walk away.And Mum — if you ever read this in your heavenly space — know this:The little boy who ran down that driveway has spent his life becoming a man who studies resilience, belonging, and connection.And it all began with you coming back through that door.&nbsp;

My Earliest Memory - My Mother

Alan GaynorSafeguarding is central to my professional practice.I am fully committed to maintaining safe, ethical and legally compliant environments in all work involving adults, young people and community groupsMy Commitments &nbsp;I maintain:<ul><li>Enhanced DBS Certificate (Update Service)</li><li>Professional Indemnity Insurance</li><li>Public Liability Insurance</li><li>GDPR-compliant data handling practices</li><li>Clear professional boundaries in all engagements</li></ul>All sessions and programmes are risk-assessed and delivered within structured, transparent frameworks

Professional BoundariesI operate within the scope of my qualifications and experience as:<ul><li>MSc Positive Psychology &amp; Counselling</li><li>Level 4 Qualified Counsellor</li><li>BSc (Hons) Sports Coaching &amp; Exercise Science</li><li> PGCE</li></ul>My work focuses on structured wellbeing, behavioural development and resilience training.I do not provide crisis intervention or medical treatment. Where appropriate, individuals are signposted to relevant clinical or statutory services.Ethical PracticeMy work is guided by:<ul><li>Integrity</li><li>Accountability</li><li>Lawful conduct</li><li>Respect for individual dignity</li></ul>Any concerns relating to welfare or risk are handled in accordance with UK safeguarding principles and, where required, reported through appropriate channels.Zero-Tolerance ApproachI maintain a strict zero-tolerance stance toward:<ul><li>Abuse</li><li>Exploitation</li><li>Harassment</li><li>Discrimination</li><li>Unlawful or unsafe conduct</li></ul>All participants are expected to uphold respectful behavioural standards.Ongoing Professional DevelopmentI am committed to continuous learning to ensure that my safeguarding knowledge and professional standards remain current and aligned with best practice.